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In many ways this blog post is not for
teachers. It’s for parents. It’s for me. Somehow in my mind I already
have it locked down that my boys will go to college. But why is that the
only way? Our ideas about our kids can be as damaging as our parenting
flaws. Recently my eldest tried out soccer. He didn’t like it. I kept
pushing him to get on the field. My pushing made him more and more
upset. All of a sudden I thought, “why do I care if he plays soccer?” So
we picked dandelions and went home. What I care about is that he learns
to join something. It just seems like everyone is playing soccer and
sometimes I want my kids to be just like everyone else so they may be
insulated from pain, or doubt, or struggle."
"If we respond to our kids' misbehavior instead of reacting, we'll get
the results we want. I want to take a little of the pressure off of
parenting; each instance is not life or death. We can let our kids
struggle a little bit. We can let them fail. In fact, that is the
process of childhood when children misbehave. It's not a sign of our
failure as parents. It's normal."
"The moms see it as an investment, Mejia-Arauz says: Encourage the messy, incompetent toddler who
really wants to do the dishes now, and over time, he'll turn into the competent 7-year-old who still wants to help.
Research
supports this hypothesis, says the University of New Hampshire's Andrew
Coppens. "Early opportunities to collaborate with parents likely sets
off a developmental trajectory that leads to children voluntarily
helping and pitching in at home," he says."
"Dear Reader,
If you are a young person — by young person I mean 19 and younger,
though young-at-hearters aren't excluded. Nor are older people. Or old
people. But I’m speaking primarily to young people. Anyway, if you are a
young person, the following are 10 things I’ve been meaning to say to
you:"