Sunday, November 4, 2012

Balance?

I do understand that a true balance between my personal life and my professional life is not really possible. There will always be shifts back and forth between where I spend most of my time and energy. Right now though, I can't seem to shift away from spending the vast majority of my time on my work. I know that I need to shift a bit the other way but I don't know how. I know that it is important for my health and that having time away from work will make me a better, more relaxed teacher. I know all of this but I still can't seem to make it happen - there is just too much to do. I am honestly seeking your suggestions and advice on how to improve my balance. What has worked for you?

12 comments:

  1. I don't really have any advice, but I wanted to say that I can relate. This week, I hit a wall and am having trouble focusing on any work because I overloaded this week and need some time away. Take the time before you burn out!

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    1. Brit,

      I am sorry that you became overloaded this week. I hope you are also taking some time away, too.

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  2. It's so interesting that you say this, because I've been saying that I think I could work 20 hours/day and still have more I could do. Yoga helps me get away and get calm.

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    1. Linda,

      I agree that the work is never ending. I have recently started running and that helps but in the last couple of weeks, I have been working so much that I couldn't fit running in. I am hoping that I will get back to running this week again. I have never tried yoga but I would like to -- I think it would help, too.

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  3. I can offer no help because right now I'm in the middle of report cards & comments - with conferences to follow! I think it is like the ebb & flow of the tide. Right now I'm at high tide - low tide won't come for me until November 17!

    Good luck.

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    1. mary b.,

      I am waiting for low tide, too. Hopefully it will come soon. Hang in there until November 17th. You can make it.

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  4. Jill, I think so many of us can relate. We are so passionate about learning more and wanting to do more. And there is always something more to be done! Always, always, always! However, we burn out because of all that fuel.

    I give this advice but know that I need to take it myself! First, take time for you. You know you will feel better, whether it's down time, bath time, exercise time. Then be sure to be there for your family. They are the priority. Maybe one night a week don't even pack your school bag! (Gasp!) It will all be there when you return the next day.

    Putting yourself and family first will allow you the opportunity to feel better and more focused about your work at school. As Mary mentioned, I think the balance act ebbs and flows depending on what's happening either at home or at school. But you must take care of you first so that you can enjoy the journey of being a wife, a mother and a teacher to so many. :) Think about this crazy, busy life we are living and determine what means the most right now.

    Michelle

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    1. Michelle,

      I am going to start small tonight. My plan is to carve out time to read a chapter or two of the book I started and loved a couple of weeks ago. I love to read but let that slip off of my daily agenda. Tonight, I will read. Thanks.

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  5. My initial reaction was that you've asked a practically impossible question and I had no advice. But I opened it in a tab because I wanted to see the responses you received.

    That meant it stayed in my mind. I've been thinking lately that work, for both me and my husband (a college professor) will fill up every moment we allow it to. There is always enough of it to keep expanding as much as we let it.

    We have a rule at our house that from the time we all get home, usually around 5, we don't use any electronic devices until our girls go to bed. They can get on the computer sometimes but we don't because as soon as we do, 'for just this one thing', we get sucked in. After they go to bed we get back to work. (They're young still and go to bed by 8.) We did this because of what we felt our family needed but it's been one of the greatest decisions we ever made.

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    1. Jenny,

      I think you are right about setting specific time limits on work time. We used to follow the plan that you use at our house when our daughter was younger. Now that she is older I have lapsed because I end up doing work while she is doing homework (there is so much more of it in middle school) or when she is hanging out with her friends. Now that she is more independent, she does more on her own. We still spend lots of time together but I need to carve out time for myself (and my husband) when she is busy rather than defaulting to doing school work. Thanks for the reminder.

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  6. So glad it's not just me. I am hoping NCTE for a few days changes my patterns a bit and shifts my brain to a more balanced one! Will you be there?

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  7. Franki,

    You are definitely not alone. I am hoping that the Thanksgiving break will help me shift my patterns. Sadly, I will not be at NCTE. I will follow along on Twitter, though.

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